Asian guys sleeping with white girls why dating
Before Elliot Rodger, who killed six people and himself in Isla Vista, California, on Friday night, there was George Sodini.
” “It’s because you’re black bro; girls like her only date white guys.” Until that point I had not looked at dating through a racial lens.
But after that day I started to become more “aware” of race and dating.
Was it the overwhelming absence of positive images of Asian men in the whitewashed world of American popular culture?
I think back to my college years, a time when I met many foreign Asian men – including Japanese and Cambodian.
I grew older, I met people from all over the world and got a closer look for men’s behaviors.
I noticed, at least for men I know, Asian guys are more like gentlemen, they treat their relationships more serious and are less likely to give up.I think we need to be very careful when we talk about what’s “normal” or “natural” in terms of relationships.After all, as NPR reported a few years back, “According to new data compiled by the free online dating service OKCupid, racial biases are very much part of the romantic choices we are making online, even when we insist that they are not.” And Eduardo Bonilla-Silva once wrote in his book “Racism Without Racists”: The word “natural” or the phrase “that’s the way it is” is often interjected to normalize events or actions that could otherwise be interpreted as racially motivated (residential segregation) or racist (preference for whites as friends and partners).Why did my white girlfriends and I only giggle over white celebrity heartthrobs in high school, like Tom Cruise? All I know is this — in China, I found the sexiest and most amazing men that I had ever known.I ended up marrying one and I’m still crazy in love with him. ) It took crossing an entire ocean and time zones to realize that my assumptions about dating in China were a lie.A suicide note in the gym bag pointed investigators to a website with a litany of complaints: Sodini was frustrated and angry that he wasn't dating or sleeping with women, and he shot three people and injured six others as revenge.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating