Going through a divorce and dating with kids

I coach all of my clients through a “marriage map” exercise to create a road map of a partner that will make them happy, which is necessary to start picking the right people. Many women stare blankly at me when I ask this question, because they’ve been so busy taking care of everyone else around them that they’ve totally lost sight of what makes them happy.

Within two months, you’ve had “the discussion” and have defined an exclusive relationship! There will be ups and downs, weeks where you have many dates, and weeks where you have none.

Dating during divorce can have legal consequences both for the divorcing spouse and their new partner.

But be open on your idea of “the package.”You need to have excellent photos (starting with a great smiling headshot). 4 rules for nailing the perfect profile picture As women, we often feel like we just want to date one person at a time. Dating should be like a horse race — you need many horses to make it a race!

That includes great head-to-toe shots as well as of you and only you! The horse that’s winning on the first lap might break its leg and might need to be taken out of the race.

Don’t rule out someone who is a little taller, shorter, skinner, heavier, a different color, older or younger than you “think” is your type.

You should be attracted to the person, as that is so important for the long term!Sex can be great but, had too early, can cause the demise of a relationship as we are caught in a fog of oxytocin, estrogen, testosterone and dopamine.Sure, there are a few couples that had sex early on and it turned into a happy marriage, but those are pretty few and far between.I’m in it to win it, not in it for a minute.”At this point, I hope you’ve done the "inside work" necessary to find a healthy relationship.Do you understand what went wrong in your relationship?Dating after divorce isn’t easy, and will require a great group of people surrounding you to keep you motivated and inspired!

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